What is your history of trauma? As a child, I went through several periods of trauma. I survived abuse, bullying and the deaths of all four of my grandparents. When I was 17, my mother died and I began to feel the pressure of having trauma on top of trauma.
People think that these things, although they are unpleasant and disturbing when they happen are just to be ‘got over’ given enough time. There is never enough time to ‘get over’ trauma. It is that thing that eats away at our self-worth, self-esteem and self-confidence. It brings out of us irrational outbursts of anger, aggression and a sense of always being on alert for the next danger. For most of us this does not last long, but when someone has experienced multiple traumatic events the effect becomes cumulative, which means longer recovery time.
Trauma is always with us. Every traumatic event that we experience stays in our memories, this is why it isn’t something we can just ‘get over’, since that same trauma can be triggered again at any time. But, there are ways to live with trauma. Techniques that help us to become more in tune with ourselves and more able to respond in healthy ways to triggers.
I don’t fix trauma – that isn’t something I can do. What I do is help people to learn the skills and techniques necessary to live well in the here and now. A lot of people in this world have some trauma in their background somewhere, many have never learned how to live well with it but it is possible for everyone, they just need a little coaching.
This blog is written by life coach Nikki Foster-Kruczek. She describes himself like this: “ I don’t just know the theory of what I do, I also put it into practice because I have experienced both grief and trauma in my own life. I love working with people towards their goals for life and seeing real transformation”.